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"One third (33%) of sexually active teens 15-17 reports “being in a relationship where they felt things were moving too fast sexually”, and 24 percent have “done something sexual they didn’t really want to do.” More than one in five (21%) report having oral sex to “avoid having sexual intercourse” with a partner. More than a quarter (29%) of teens 15-17 report feeling pressure to have sex. Nearly one in 10 (9%) 9-12th grade students report having been physically forced to have sexual intercourse when they did not want to at some point. (Kaiser Family Foundation, National Survey of Adolescents and Young Adults: Sexual Health Knowledge, Attitudes and Behaviors, May 2003.)

NONE of that data is about fully consensual sex: most of it is about rape and other kinds of sexual abuses."

I don't think it is appropriate to take such a broad definition of "rape" and "sexual abuse", much of what you are talking about is in fact the awkwardness and inexperience associated with early sexual encounters. Part of being in a relationship is being willing to compromise and sometimes do things you don't want to do because your partner wants to do it and you want to please them. Allthough it may be something you don't particularly want to do, or do at that time, it doesn't make it rape. The only time it is rape is when force or threat of force is used.