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I don't use the language I use as any kind of tactic. I use the language I use both because it means what I mean, and because in this entry, it was the word used to talk about all of us who are survivors.

For those of us who have been raped/sexually assaulted, it's usually pretty darn precise, and I don't think those of us who are using it are unable to think clearly while we do. I also don't think any term for rape and assault is ever going to be unloaded to survivors or for those who understand the impact of either, and have an issue with nonsurvivors (should that be the case with you, my apologies if I presume incorrectly) telling us which words we should be using. If you are a survivor who does not like the word rape and feels better about using the term sexual assault, I support you in that.

I don't see anyone burning any witches here, and comparing what we call a sexual crime and assault with language that means that to the brutalization of women based mostly on their sex and their actual or perceived nonconformity is pretty beyond the pale in my book. Especially since in both cases, we're talking about purposefully and knowingly harmful attacks, most often to women and children.

I have no beef with either term and don't choose to use either for any kind of political purpose or agenda. I don't know who "we" is here, but in my book, I'm down with and respect whichever of the available terms any given survivor wants to use for what happened to him/her/hir. I have no idea know what the sexual futurist community is, but a) rape isn't usually about sex, especially for a survivor, and b) I'm pretty sure I didn't sign up to be a member of that community.

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