Wow, what a wonderful article. Two of my brothers and I were sexually abused as children, but only one of my brothers told my mom. Suddenly it was as if he was broken, or dirty or something. My other brother and I refused to talk about what had happened to us because of this, and not wanting to have this public shame on us. Now I'm 25 and when I read your article, suddenly a light went on in my head and your ideas make so much more sense to me, about the stereotypes of rape survivors. I didn't realize that this was a negative stereotype - I thought that it was just how things were. I feel informed and empowered. Thanks very much for this wonderful article. It leaves me with so much to think about!