Thank you so much for this post. You found the perfect words for how I feel. Breaking this stereotype is really freeing because it lets me view my sexuality as a part of me that I have absolute control over, and yes being raped has influenced my sexuality in the past but it doesn't impact it negatively anymore. I hate it when people I am close to who know that I was raped assume that every issue I have, even beyond sex, goes back to my rape. Thank you for using your voice to say: it's not always true!