Hello, first time posting!
So I'm a very anxious person with repetitive, obsessive thought processes. I am a young college student and also autistic. Recently I realized that a lot of my anxiety is probably rooted in the way my "best friend" treated me in middle school. He would beat me up every day, and sometimes touch my thighs and chest against my consent, along with other psychological abuse. Only a few months ago did I have moment of realization that this was NOT a normal thing to go through, and that I have a lot of triggers and physical reactions related to what he would do.
Now for the past few months, ever since the revelation, I find myself obsessing over sexual things...
Example 1: Kinkshaming. I have become very obsessed with making sure I fantasize in a 100% "pure," "moral," and "ethical" way, and obsessed with searching out and internally mocking others that have the same sexual tastes as me when they do it in a slightly ""less moral"" or "more weird" way. This hatred Im spewing out is concerning me, I don't think its healthy or cool to do. But I'm struggling to stop.
Example 2: Talking a lot about sex. I have become obsessed with proving to my friends that I am "normal" in my sex life. I keep bringing up sexual topics and sexual happenings with my friends every day (they usually find it funny and aren't bothered, but I just wish I could stop talking about it).
Example 3: Trying to figure myself out when I don't really want to. I have never been able to masturbate or receive sexual pleasure from a partner in my whole life, yet I never felt insecure about it before. This website was helpful in making me accept myself the way I am! For a long time, I considered myself asexual. But nowadays, I spend a lot of time googling things about vaginas (because that's what I have), about how to masturbate, and attempting to masturbate (which is not pleasurable at all to me ever). I feel dejected for not being able to do it.
These obsessions are starting to really trouble me. It uses a lot of energy and time, and I have been getting headaches recently, and other physical symptoms. I also sometimes get panic attacks when I remember my "best friend" from middle school, when I think hard about the "morality" of my sexual tastes, and when I try to explore masturbation.
The problem is that I know this is unhealthy for me, yet something inside of me is preventing me from letting it go. I don't want to think about sex at all right now. I want to go back to how I was before my realization. But the thoughts wont stop in my mind.
I want to know if anyone else has experienced the same thing, or what I should do to feel better...
Summary: I am an anxious college age person suddenly obsessing over sexual "normalcy" due to unpacking my long-ago sexual abuse.
Thank you to anyone who reads this! Also I really love this website!! Its helped me for years but I never posted before!!