Is it worth trying?

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Is it worth trying?

Unread post by Astia »

New here and currently smiling that I found a place where I can ask something that is on my mind.
I have been having sex with three of my friends. We all know each other and we all know about it and it's all open talk between us. I don't do it all the time, it's been a few weeks since I last had sex, but sometimes I'm in the mood and I do it with one of them.
But it's always only one of them, I'm only comfortable with one at a time and never thought of more than one.
But I have been watching some train porn videos, the ones where a girl had sex with multiple guys but only one at a time but one after another.
Is the girl who has sex multiple times in a row enjoying it or is it all acting? Does it hurt? Is it comfortable for her? Does her body feel pleasure during all that time? Is she in any pain afterwards? How does she feel tomorrow? These are the questions I am asking myself, I am curious about trying it but I want some questions answered before I bring it up to the guys.
Thanks for the help.
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Re: Is it worth trying?

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Hi!
I’m also glad you found a place where you can ask what’s on your mind, I’ll do my best to answer!
Firstly, I want to say that porn depictions of sex are hardly accurate. Most porn is acting, and the sexual responses are often exaggerated. With that being said, some people definitely enjoy having sex with multiple people in a row. Sex shouldn’t hurt and should always be comfortable.
If this is something you are considering, the most important thing is to make sure that you are comfortable and safe. In terms of pleasure you may not know exactly how you feel until you try it. If you do decide to try this, it could be helpful to set some boundaries beforehand with each other. And of course, if at any point you feel uncomfortable you can stop!
Hope this helps.
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Hi Astia,

In addition to what Coral said, I think it would help to focus less on what the actresses or hypothetical who engage in this kind of sex feel about it and how you feel about. What about it appeals to you? Are there things that worry you about it? Do you feel capable of actively communicating and setting boundaries with your partners in this kind of scenario?
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I want to try something different, and doing this train thing is sort of different but I have already been with all of these guys and I trust all three of them and I think it's something all four of us would enjoy. All of us have been good friends before sex became a thing for us, I'm not worried about the communication thing or my boundary limits as I know they would be okay with it. Maybe I'm just too horny right now I want to try something new? I'm only worried about how I'm going to react from it all, but I am going to keep it to where it's only one on one but doing it one after another, nothing else, at least for now. I still need to talk to them about it, and coralvh is right that I won't know how I feel until I try it.
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I'm glad to hear these are all partners you feel safe and comfortable with. When you say you're worried about how you're going to react to it, can you say a little more about that? Too, if you think part of this may be coming from a lot of desire and an interest in trying something new, it might help to think about what, in particular, makes this an appealing fantasy or act for you and how that may compare to the reality of it.
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A little TMI here but I got together with one of my partners yesterday afternoon and then I got together with one of my other partners this morning, trying to get together with my third partner but he's a little busy. Right now this train idea is something that I'm not going to push for, but maybe later on. I'm amazed that I had sex twice in 15 hours, yeah it was fun but I think I'm good.
Part of me doesn't want to embarrass any of them if I do this train, each one is very different and each one has a different style of having sex. I don't want them to judge each other is what I'm trying to say. That's probably the only thing that's keeping me from asking them to try it. But I still want to try it, LOL!
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Hi Astia!
It sounds like you gave yourself some space to think about this, that’s great! I agree that if you are feeling doubts, even if you are still excited about it, it’s always better not to rush into things. Especially if there’s more potential for friendship dynamics to be affected. Also, even if you do trust your partners, it could still be really helpful to set up a few boundaries and “ground rules” if you do decide to try this - ie deciding how to communicate discomfort to your partners, are there any aspects you don’t want to try, what concerns your partners might have, etc.
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Thanks Emily. Having two partners in 15 hours was good for me, I needed something new. And maybe I'm just a little embarrassed on talking to the three of them about doing this. I'll work on it.
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That sounds good, there's no rush! You're right, if you want to move forward, open communication sounds like a good plan :)
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We are going to do this tomorrow. We all chatted about it and everybody wants to try it. Now I'm a little scared, lol! I made the ground rules that it's one at a time, and nobody else can watch they'll have to be in the other room. I think that's going to work. I want to try this at least once, and I'm okay with all three of them.
Any other suggestions?
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I do want to check in and make sure you've all talked about how you're handling birth control and safer sex practices; any time someone has multiple partners it is vital to have good communication and responsibility around safer sex. Is that something you've discussed in detail with everyone?
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