Hey idk anymore -- I am so sorry you're going through this. Has any literature or reporting on this policy said there's a reason why
its needed? I'm trying to figure out why the ACLU would support a policy like this because it's my understanding they believe outing students is a civil rights violation
. I'm wondering if there is a safety concern that the decision makers in your school/district think they're combating but actually aren't. I have a little experience with policy analysis and would be interested in learning more about what they're trying to enforce. Feel free to link me to whatever info you have, especially whatever the ACLU said about the school you knew of with the identical policy in place. I'm not an expert by any means, but I'm happy to read it all over.
I'm disheartened to hear that you and some of your classmates have not only taken the risk to speak at the meetings but also offered alternatives and your voices are still left out of the discussion. There are so many policies and laws, both locally and nationally, that that are written and passed without the people they would most impact being in the room or involved in the process. This is ever present in policies that are geared toward young people, especially their sexuality. Adult allies can be extremely useful and valuable in this situations; it sounds like you and your classmates have already started to involve them. I agree with Sam - I think it's a great idea to involve any supportive parents, especially if faculty and staff aren't getting through. I can't speak for the status quo in your town, but the folks on your school board are elected officials. Often it is their best interest to listen to their constituents (aka the people who can choose to vote or not vote for them, aka parents in your town) to serve their community as their position requires but also for the selfish reason of keeping their seats on the board when the next election rolls around. I think parents would be a great tool here. Do you know any parents you can talk to? How do your parents feel?
I also wanted to know a little more about what you meant by the laws pretraining to this issue are vague in your area. Do you mean the language is broad and non-specific to LGBTQIA+ folks, or do you mean there are no protective laws in your town? Something to know is that policies in a town cannot contradict state laws. When policy is passed in a state, it applies everywhere - even down to the school district. If a school district or town creates a policy that conflicts a state law, it's my understanding there could be legal action. If you're able, I highly recommend reviewing the resource Sam sent
and this this break down of policies in NH
someone who is more fluent in law in NH. This law
was passed in NH in 2019.
Some other info I found that might be helpful:
* Resources for LGBTQ+ Students through the US Dept of Education's Office of Civil Rights
(includes how to file a complaint)
* Haven NH
for LGBTQIA+ friendly domestic violence support with an office in Epping, NH for any emergencies (your profile says you're in Epping, hopefully this helps)