i um don't know how to masturbate

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i um don't know how to masturbate

Unread postby hades375664 » Thu Apr 08, 2021 9:26 am

hi there um i feel weird asking this but um how do you masturbate effecintly

i never seem to be fully satisified afterwards and the climax is minimal if any

any suggestions

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Re: i um don't know how to masturbate

Unread postby boosterseat » Sun Apr 11, 2021 1:32 am

Hello, thank you for messaging! I'm sorry to hear that you've been having trouble enjoying masturbation. The thing is, sexual pleasure has more to do with your what's going on with your brain, rather than with your body. That includes emotions, feelings, thoughts, etc., and it works differently for different people. If you're stressed during masturbation, or if you don't have privacy and are worried about someone walking in on you/interrupting, it can be hard to make it feel good. Also--you may just be accidentally putting pressure on yourself to feel pleasure/to climax, which definitely makes it harder to relax and let your body feel good. Do you relate to any of these points, or do you think something else may be causing the problem?
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Re: i um don't know how to masturbate

Unread postby hades375664 » Mon Apr 12, 2021 4:24 am

i think it is fear of being interupted possibly but i also think it might be technique

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Re: i um don't know how to masturbate

Unread postby Sam W » Mon Apr 12, 2021 6:49 am

If you're having privacy concerns, this article can help you out: https://www.scarleteen.com/article/sexu ... rbating_at. And as far as how to masturbate, you can read about the common techniques people use here: Going Solo: The Basics of Masturbation.


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