Hi, I’m really sorry, I feel like this question is... odd. Please bear with me.
I met my boyfriend through a vaguely sexual situation, and thats how we kinda knew each other for a while- “that person that I discussed kinks with”- and a couple months later we bonded over other, more SFW topics. We started dating about half a year after that, and I think he kind of picked up on my reluctance to talk about sex again because I had recently gone through a repeat of severe trauma.
We’ve never properly discussed it, but I have been starting to think that maybe I’m ready to at least make an attempt with him? Maybe not all the way, but I feel like I’m ready to reintroduce myself to that kind of thing, and I’m unsure how to bring it up. My boyfriend is a lovely lovely person who has been very understanding with me, so I’m not uncomfortable per say, I just don’t know how to talk about it. I feel like if I bring it up he’ll worry that I’m just saying that for his sake because of the way my trauma has affected me.
This was a very long winded way of asking how to bring up sex, or at least more sexual activities, to someone after experiencing severe sexual trauma? I don’t really know if I am ready to reintroduce myself to it, but I want to try, and I feel safe enough with him that I know he will listen to me if it’s too much.