This might be a little rambly because I'm not sure how to explain my question. Also not sure if this is in the right sub-forum. It's been on my mind for a while though, so I'd appreciate any ideas.
My chronic anxiety often makes it difficult for me to trust my intuition on a lot of things. It's really easy to slip into a mindset where I assume that I'm bad and people are upset with me and I've done something wrong, or else that something is wrong, even when nothing is (for example, I feel like I'm bothering everyone by posting this). A lot of the work I've done in therapy has been in countering those narratives and questioning the false alarms that my brain gives me.
At the same time, I'm otherwise very privileged in most ways and I've come to understand that I need to unlearn a lot of behaviours and ways of thinking. I know there may be things that I've grown up thinking are normal and ok that really are not ok. I find that I often need to doubt my own reality in a sense in order to question my prejudices and hold myself accountable.
So a lot of the time it feels like I have these two voices in my head, one saying everything is bad and I'm always wrong, and one saying everything is fine and I'm always right. Obliviously neither is true, but it makes it hard to do healthy self-reflection. I notice it a lot when it comes to boundaries. I constantly feel afraid that I'm not respecting others' boundaries well enough, but I also feel guilty when I enforce my own boundaries and I'm always afraid of others pushing past my boundaries. It also makes it harder to process stuff that's happened in the past where I feel like the 'safe' way to go is to assume that I was 100% in the wrong and not respecting boundaries and being unreasonable about mine, even when that doesn't feel quite right.
I realize that I'm going to have to do more work in therapy at some point for a lot of this stuff, but I would appreciate suggestions in the mean time. Suggestions for how to approach this in therapy would also be welcome. Therapy has mostly focused on getting past the "I'm bad" anxiety message, which is good, but I've struggled to move from there to identifying the ways I actually do need to change and challenging my sexism, racism, etc. Those two kinds of work have been mostly separate so far, and I feel like they need to come together, but don't know how.
TL;DR - I'm trying to get better at respecting and holding boundaries and challenging my prejudices, but I think anxiety is making me over-correct and just generally getting in the way of actually helpful self-reflection.