I just want to add that I think it's helpful to remember that having attraction and wanting to do something about it are two different things. This, for instance, is a fairly common situation with many people in the ace community, plenty of whom may feel attraction but not the desire to do anything about it.
But there are many other scenarios in which we may find someone attractive but may not want to get involved with someone. Maybe we know they're bad for us in some way. Maybe we or they are already in an exclusive relationship. Maybe we're focusing on our own self-care exclusively right now, or on our platonic friendships, so we don't want to get involved with anyone. Maybe we find someone attractive aesthetically, but that doesn't = sexual desire for us with that person. Maybe we know that certain kinds of relationships or interactions with people of a given gender are just too rife for us at the moment, or just something we don't seem to do well in. Maybe we're just lazy and don't want to actively do anything, period.