My boyfriend and I have lots of discussions and occasional clashes of opinions which is an important part of our relationship. We always have something to talk about and we are both comfortable talking about our feelings as well. However, when having discussions involving his whole family or other groups of people he isn't quite as good at listening to other people's opinions.
One topic that has caused me immense frustration is about the validity of asexuality. I know one person who identifies as asexual and have known another in the past. I really don't know enough about it to have much of an opinion on it. However, I do feel defensive of the people I know/have known in their freedom to be able to confidently identity as asexual and not have people making judgements about it.
My boyfriend seems to have come to the conclusion that asexuality is a manifestation of depression and other mental health issues. He is very set in the thinking that as human beings we all some behavioural characteristics engraned in us. He really struggles to see the nuances of other people's experiences! I myself am in the belief that it is a lot more complicated and still want to read stories of first hand accounts and any research papers on the subject. Ultimately I want to remain open minded and sympathetic.
My boyfriend is lovely and one of the kindest people I know. Outside the realms of heated discussions/arguments he treats people very well whether they a complete stranger or a friend. He is also very supportive of the lgbt community (as well as under-represented people in general) and has friends who are gay and bisexual. He hopes to go into medicine and is starting at university in September. I really just want him to be able to have a bit more of an open mind about this topic but don't know where to begin with resources that discuss it. Are there any resources you would recommend? Are there any that present research or a mix of different opinions/experiences?
Also as a bit of extra information my boyfriend is dyspraxic and has some features which are quite similar to autism (I think it can be part of dyspraxia but not entirely sure). He is very strict about his schedules and likes to have lots of rules and boundaries. I think this can sometimes apply to how he sees the world around him sometimes as well.