Just a quick add from me: you ideally will want to have a healthcare provider take a look at this and tell you what it is, but it sounds likely to be a clitoral adhesion to me. Sometimes those *can* be dealt with with only home remedies, such as a pattern of hot water soaks (like a hot bath every day for a bunch of says) with massage, but it sounds like home care just isn't working for this, and you also will need to know for sure what it is to know if you even CAN try to tend to it yourself.
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