Hey! I feel like this question has probably been answered in similar forms somewhere else, but I've never seen anything about my exact situation and I'd just like a little peace of mind.
I first discovered porn when I was somewhere around 8-10 accidentally while looking for fanfiction of a book series I was really into at the time. I'm almost 15 now, and I still look at porn fairly regularly, and I haven't had sex yet. Recently, I read something written by an adult talking about how they discovered porn young and are still recovering from the experience. They described how they started out with tamer stuff and quickly found they couldn't get off to anything but the most extreme fantasies available and it just really hit me that that was pretty much exactly what happened to me.
I already know porn isn't realistic, and that what happens in porn isn't what I can expect real sex to be like, and I don't really want to do any of the extreme stuff that happens in porn, but I'm worried it's affected me in ways I won't notice until I actually have an active sex life. I'm currently dating someone who's had sex before, and I think we'll probably have sex sometime soon. Will it be unsatisfying for me because of how long I've been looking at porn, including BDSM and rape fantasy stuff? Should I stop looking at porn entirely? Only look at "vanilla" stuff? I'm just not sure what to do.