Hi Strangewriter11,
Welcome to the boards! I completely understand your concern and frustration. I'm sorry to hear that you've tried so much to no avail. Before moving forward, I want to share one of our resources on Vaginismus to see if learning more can assist in figuring out if it fits the description of your experiences or symptoms:
The FBI Files: Vaginismus. Within this article, there is a mention of another one of our pieces that could help in figuring out what's going on, I'll link it here:
From OW! to WOW! Demystifying Painful Intercourse. I do want to emphasize that Vaginismus isn't a physical condition, but rather a psychological one that often occurs as a result of sexual trauma and more. The first article explains more so I recommend checking it out! Please let me know what you think and depending on that, we can figure out how to move forward with this!