Hi there MissConfused, I’m sorry to hear that you’re having a rough and confusing time at the moment. One thing that may help to consider is that your
brain is a really important part of sexual response, and in a way that it more about what, or who you find arousing. The amount of stress we feel, including pressuring ourselves to feel pleasure, or feeling stressed all actually inhibit our sexual response, when we’re stressed the brain decides “we don’t have time for arousal, we’re stressed so there must be
danger around!”, so actually being concerned about not being able to orgasm or be turned on, actually makes us less likely to do so, which is very counterintuitive.
We can think of the sexual response system as like that of a car, with both brakes and accelerator. If the brakes (stress, or other turn offs) are on, it doesn’t matter how much you rev the accelerator (the turn ons) the car (sexual response) doesn’t go anywhere.
This is called the dual control model of sexual response, and you can read more about it
here, and I wholeheartedly recommend Dr Emily Nagoski’s book
Come as You Are which expands on this topic, and confirms that this is a very common way for people’s bodies and brains to work, how you’re responding to stress is actually pretty usual, there is nothing wrong with you or a side effect of any sexuality.
That said, that doesn’t mean that it makes the current situation any less frustrating as you are still experiencing the stress and it’s effects, and that sounds like it’s pretty tough right now.
Earlier you mentioned seeing a therapist and a sexologist and it sounded like they were beneficial to you. Would you consider going back to see either or both of them and talk to them about what you’re feeling at the moment? Have you spoken to either about what it would mean to you to be attracted to multiple genders or women exclusively or not? Does this sound like something you’d be willing to try?