hi!
im seventeen and have recently started to masturbate. my first try was about 2 years ago, and I don't do it very often. I am very open to experiencing pleasure, and I would actually love to do so, but the issue is that I have always struggled to find that certain thing that really pleasures me. this makes me hesitant to try again. when i do masturbate, i kinda hop from thing to thing, but most of the time i plateau at a certain pleasure level and end up just giving up. i have only tried massaging around my clit and vulva but havent really attemped fingering or using a sex toy. i watch porn and read smut sometimes, which defintely helps me get aroused, but doesnt help a lot when i actually start to masturbate. i'm worried that i wont find my "niche" when it comes to masturbating, because in my experience everyone seems to have a very specific tactic they use to self-pleasure successfully. for example, i talked with another woman in my life, and she said she feels immense pleasure through pressure applied not even in the vaginal area. i was extremely discouraged by this because i worry that my own way of feeling pleasure is so specific that i will never be able to find it. how should i handle these feelings toward masturbation, and is there any way i can pinpoint more efficiently what i like?