I’m so sorry to hear that. Here are some ideas for helping your boyfriend:
- I like this resource as a starting off point:
"What to say to a rape or sexual abuse survivor."
- Most importantly, believe him, and do not blame him for what happened.
- Ask him if there are ways that you can support him (and let him know it’s also okay if he doesn’t know what he needs, either)
- Let him know that you are available to provide support (hugs, listening space, art, snacks)
- Connect him with some of the resources from the link above or Scarleteen if it makes sense to you.
- It’s also important to recognize when and how to take care of yourself during and after these conversations.