Hi there, brand new to the forum here!
I've been wondering about this topic for a few months now, but I haven't really gotten any advice about it. I'm a 19-year-old cis female, and I've been experiencing panic and yucky feelings post-orgasm when I've had both had sex and masturbated in recent months. I've found that after I orgasm, particularly after penetration (of fingers only, as I've exclusively masturbated and sex with another person with a vagina), I feel really panicky! I no longer want to be touched, my heart races, my stomach feels full of anxious butterflies, sometimes I can't help but cry, and I just all-around feel queasy. It's made me feel quite down on myself and very confused, as during sex or masturbation, I like the feeling of fingers inside, but as soon as I come, I feel the opposite.
I've also noticed that while sometimes I do, I don't as often feel this way after orgasms from oral sex or clitoral stimulation. But, those times that I do still feel off afterwards, I find myself upset. I enjoy being touched, orgasming, and touching myself. But I don't love the way I feel afterwards, some 70% of the time.
Is there something I should do? Should I try masturbating / having sex less frequently and see what that makes me feel? I find myself thinking about sex and masturbation often, as the process really does feel nice, but it just doesn't feel very nice post-orgasm.