Hello iloveeveryone, and welcome to Scarleteen! I understand that this is a stressful situation to be in, for both you and your sibling. I'm sorry that you're going through this uncertainty regarding your parents' reaction to your sibling's sexuality. No age is too young to know one's sexual identity, and there's no need to respect the opinion of those who think that someone is too young to know who they are. Your sibling should be under no obligation to come out again when they're older, but I know that this is a common opinion among parents who aren't LGBT-friendly, and if your sibling is comfortable with it (their desires and their comfort are of the highest priority here, of course), you two should have that conversation with your parents, to tackle their misguided opinion right now. However, since both you and your sibling are minors and live with your parents, it's possible that talking to them may backfire (they may become hostile, there might be a fight, etc.), which will affect your home situation and emotional health. Are you and your sibling okay with that possibility? Quoting from an article we have on here
To be affirmed, seen, and loved by others are among the reasons people come out in the first place, and we all hope that things will go really well. Things might also go badly, which is why coming out is scary, but preparation can help. Whatever happens, you’re allowed to feel whatever comes to you in the moment and after. It’s not easy to be vulnerable with people whose reactions you care about, but no one can take your identity, your language, or how you want to love, live and exist away from you. What might going badly mean in your situation? Is your safety or your access to your support networks, mental health care, or your housing compromised? Does it mean that people will get angry or upset with you? Even in cases where they are supportive, people, especially family members, can express a range of emotions that’s difficult and uncomfortable for you to hear. But again, keep in mind that whatever feelings they’re having are not your responsibility. You are allowed to remove yourself while they’re doing that processing. You can leave at any time.
We could talk more about this, if you want.
iloveeveryone wrote: ↑Thu Jul 29, 2021 3:17 am
I don't know if they would appreciate my asking this here, does it count as outing them?
Since it's your sibling's sexuality, it's 100% up to them whether they want to bring it up with your parents again. I'd say you should talk to your sibling about the fact that you're worried about their safety at home, and ask them if they, like you, want a final answer from your parents. If they don't feel the same way, you should respect their decision. Does that make sense?