Hello, first let me thank the staff of this site, I know you help a lot of people get information when our guidance counsellors and web history won’t give us an answer.
My boyfriend (amab) and I (afab) have been having sex for a few months. It’s always penis/vagina (not anal) but in several positions and quite fast and rough. Recently, we had an incident where his penis slipped out for a moment and accidentally went in the wrong hole. It took me a split second to realize a difference, then immediately told him to pull out. I didn’t experience any bleeding, just bad soreness for a few days (do not worry, I am not asking for medical advice). Neither of us have had sexual partners before each other and didn’t even know that was a possibility, maybe it was just a one off but he feels very bad. When we had sex again, every thing was great, expect for the fact that I would flinch every so often when I felt it slip out worrying that it may happen again. He tries to assure me it won’t because he’s super careful but I can’t help this gut reaction. He is very understanding but it still sucks cause sex has been a really good experience for both of us and I don’t want to ruin it simply because I have a weird aversion now. Is there anything I could do to like... block my butt safely? Or do you have any other suggestions?
Thank you, Emilia