Masturbating again

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Masturbating again

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So I went out of town this weekend where I slept in the living room, so I didn't masturbate before bed for 2 days. When I came home, I masturbated that night, but I didn't orgasm. Does not masturbating make it harder to orgasm?
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Re: Masturbating again

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The thing about orgasm is that it doesn't always happen: it's not a guarantee, and it's not something we can make happen every time by doing the same things that make it happen sometimes.

Going without sex or masturbation isn't something that generally makes it harder for people to reach orgasm, no. But one thing that does is expecting orgasm, or trying FOR orgasm rather than just focusing on pleasure and what feels good. But sometimes even then it just doesn't always happen, for about a gazillion reasons, some of which we often can't pinpoint. Make sense?
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Re: Masturbating again

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Yeah that makes sense. Thanks Heather.
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Re: Masturbating again

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Sure thing. :)
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