I'm gay but I like straight porn

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I'm gay but I like straight porn

Unread postby sugarcrash » Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:38 am

I for sure know that I'm attracted both romantically and sexually to the same gender, exclusively. But then I find myself enjoying straight porn and it leaves me confused. Afterwards I get this really guilty feeling. I know that I wouldn't want to partake in any sexual activity with someone of the different gender in real life, but I get turned on watching straight porn. Is this normal?

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Re: I'm gay but I like straight porn

Unread postby Sam W » Tue Mar 16, 2021 7:58 am

Hi sugarcrash,

It's actually pretty common for people to consume porn featuring things they wouldn't do or want in real life. And that extends to porn that doesn't reflect their own sexual orientation. It can help to think of the sexual media we consume as an extension of fantasy; often we fantasize about sexual things that probably won't happen, or that we'd hate if they happened in the real world, but something about the fantasy appeals to us and lets us enjoy ourselves. Does that make sense?

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Re: I'm gay but I like straight porn

Unread postby sugarcrash » Wed Mar 17, 2021 1:38 am

That... actually makes a lot of sense now that I think about it. I guess I was just afraid that I'm "faking" my sexuality just because I enjoy porn that doesn't align with it. Thank you so much for your answer :) It's reassuring to know that this situation is actually common.

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Re: I'm gay but I like straight porn

Unread postby Siân » Wed Mar 17, 2021 4:46 am

You know, you are the expert on your sexuality. You've said pretty clearly here that you are attracted to people of your gender and are a lesbian, and that's all anyone should need to believe you - no matter what kind of porn you enjoy or what you fantasise about.


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