Me and my boyfriend haven’t had sex for two weeks now. We have been together since May this year. Despite having four precious relationships, I have never orgasmed and I also am not comfortable masturbating. In addition, I just never get to urge to have sex. When we actually do it, I do enjoy it, but I never get the urge to initiate anything.
In addition, my boyfriend does not initiate anything with me. If he did start touching me sexually then I would get in the mood but we just seem to stay together every night and go straight to sleep. Now I am working full time and doing a masters degree so I admit I am tired. I am also in the process of coming off anti depressants.
I put pressure on my self thinking “omg we haven’t had sex for two weeks so I have to do it” so I then do it purely through pressure which is not enjoyable.
Furthermore, before we got together my boyfriend was a virgin. I know this sounds really mean but to me it isn’t attractive to have to guide a guy, I like a guy who is very dominant in the bedroom. It is a turn on for me. I feel really bad for saying that so please no judgement.
For a girl my age is it normal to not want sex all the time? I think there is a lot of pressure on young couples to be “like rabbits”.
To summarise, I simply feel like when I think about having sex I’m just like “ugh I cannot be bothered”.
Should we be together?