I hear you.
So, one option instead trimming more closely or shaving is to use an oil on your pubes -- like coconut, almond or olive. Doesn't need to be anything fancy, just something basic and safe for skin, hair, and genitals. If you oil that hair just a little bit after you bathe, it'll make discharges slide off it more and less likely to harden on them. It also keeps the hair silkier, so it can kind of swirl together a little more sometimes, which can also help it get stuck in things, including folds, a little less.
That might work paired with some basic trimming that doesn't ask you to get too up close and personal?
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