Hi sorry for the late reply, we've been out of power for a bit now but now that we have it back I've been thinking about your post a lot.
First of all, thank you a lot for that reassurance, I don't know if I'll ever be ready ready
to come out, but at least it's not on me for that. This is off topic, but what if I never want to come out? Is that an option? Like could I potentially just show up at home with my partner and announce them as my s/o...
I don't know if this could have anything to do with it, but in the article there was a paragraph about how heteronormativity was (is) a big thing. I distinctly remember as a child all I would see were m/f couples. Like I mentioned before, I had no idea it was even an option to love someone else than a guy. Even my uncle who is openly gay, was always introduced with 'his best friend.' I only found out via eavesdropping that him and his (now husband) boyfriend were together romantically. While I understand that that was because our mother country, where he currently lives, had made homosexuality illegal and our family didn't want a 7 year old spilling criminal activities, it still rubs me a bit wrong. My sister of course found out at the same time as I did, so she would have been about 7 and I was 12. In that paragraph, there is a mention about how our community and society shape us. And I can't help but wonder how that has affected my sister and I. With how differently we're approaching the same dilemma.
I don't think she's wrong or anything, or mistaken with her sexuality. I can't do that, and I am doing my best to support her as an ally and a week ago I almost thought she came out to her friends without telling anyone. But I don't think she did, and i don't even know what to do at this point.
Sorry this ended being more of a ranting ramble, than any actual questions being asked or answered. But to answer your main question, yes I would absolutely be up for helping her come out, except every time she approaches me I'm getting ready for bed, so my brain has already begun to shut down and relax so I tend to get snappy or short when I'm not in full control of my emotions. And I think I may have accidentally driven her away, even though I'm trying to help her.