Hello,
I've been questioning my sexuality for a few years now (almost 3) and I've never really wanted to come out because I don't actually know if I am bi (or something else) or not. Part of this is probably because I don't think I am valid in my feelings. I didn't even know that there was such a thing as being gay or bi until almost seventh grade. And it was only then that I began to think about what it would be like to have a crush on or like someone of my same gender.
For some reason, I feel like I tricked myself into thinking that I'm bi because I never had those feelings before I had heard of the concept. And like you guys have said, being turned on or having crushes or things is all from your brain. I've never actually slept with anyone of any gender, so I can't even use that as a basis to see whether I can get aroused with different people. How do I even know that I am actually bi or just not straight, and this all not just my brain tricking me into this?
Honestly, I probably would've just continued not telling anyone until I was 200% sure, but about a week ago my baby sister (11 yrs) came out to me and said she thought she was lesbian. And she's very stressed out because she wants to come out to our parents, and wants to be able to talk to someone who understands her.
I've never told anyone that I felt like this, but now I'm wondering if I should for her because she needs someone to rely on. But, I just don't want to because I'm not confident with what my brain is telling me, and I don't want that weight of having myself out.
I guess, do you guys have any advice on what I should do here, if anything at all?
Thank you <3