Heather wrote:You've got a few options.
The first one is just to set sex/masturbation to the side for right now while you're feeling so stressed and not very excited, at least for a little bit. Sometimes our lives and how we feel in them is such that it just isn't the right time for sexuality.
Alternately, you can try and both reduce and manage your stress, which I'd advise anyone do whether it's having an impact on sex or not. Stress really messes up our whole bodies and health, and we're always best to try to better manage it.
In terms of reducing it: is there anything you can take off your plate or something you can make easier for yourself?
In terms of managing it: what do you do for now? What are the things you do to relax or to burn off energy?
With the excitement, I think one thing that will help is seeing if you can't let go of trying to recapture how it felt before -- it really is normal for all this to shift, including it being not quite the bomb of excitement masturbation may have been when we were younger. That just gives you something to feel bad about, which is not generally exciting for people. Maybe instead think of this as exploring (whenever you're ready to, perhaps after a break) the new way things feel now?
So, stress is not really too bad. I've been in more stressful situations before, but it's still there. I can't really reduce it, I'm doing the bare minimum, going to school, homework, doing some chores that I have to and occasionally studying. I don't really have a way to relax, I usually waste most of my days on tiktok after school because I'm too exhausted to do anything else. I recently started going to Judo twice a week, but I don't find that particularly relaxing, but my mum is forcing me to do it so I have no choice.
So for excitement, I don't think I can let go of it because it doesn't feel good almost at all. I know that it's normal for it to stop being such a "bomb of excitement" and there was a time when it wasn't that "bomb of excitement" but it did feel good. Now it's just feels meh and then it feels even worse than before I started.
Also I don't know can I take a brake, I tried doing that a few times and I usually only last a few days, the longest I've lasted was like a month, but I could only do that by misinterpreting my religion and believing that it's a terrible sin, which I now know is not only false, but also very unhealthy. Idk why, but I have to do it at least once a day or every two days.