I’ve been sexually active since i was 13, but I’ve never been able to orgasm, after doing a bit of a research, I found that apparently masturbation and learning more about your body can help, but it’s started making me panic about there being something wrong with me even more.
I’ve never been able to masturbate. I can get aroused, sure, but the second I penetrate myself with my fingers I cringe and dry up. And yes, I always make sure there’s lead up.
I did a bit of googling and was recommended to try clitoris stimulation, on multiple websites it showed images of where a clitoris was, what a clitoral hood looked like, and how it should feel. That’s when the panic increased. Because I don’t have anything that looks like that. There’s no hood, theres no nub, there’s just flat skin above my urethra and then my mons where public hair is. I read about having an ‘embedded clitoris’ but even feeling around there during arousal I can’t feel any ‘hard nub’ or sensation any more intense than having my arm touched.
I’m currently in a relationship where communication is very good, he wants me to understand my body better too. So far we’ve discovered that whilst clitoris stimulation doesn’t have an effect on me, manual sex from him does, but due to never masturbating or orgasming, I usually tell him to stop because it gets more intense and a bit scary.
These last few months I’ve just felt really overwhelmed, and whilst I’m making some discoveries and I think my boyfriend and I are on the right path to making me orgasm, there’s a lot I still don’t understand about myself and I just want somebody to tell me that my body is normal.
PS: I started birth control last month, and have been diagnosed with generalised anxiety disorder and chronic depression. This might be important.