hiiii. it’s been a while, how are you all doing?
so let me start out by saying I love my best friend and I only want the best for her. But the thing is, she keeps talking to her ex boyfriend who’s hurt her in the past. She had a pregnancy scare and he said he’d want nothing to do with her if she was actually pregnant (they weren’t even together at the time, she went behind my back and hooked up with him). Then when she wasn’t, he was like “Oh I don’t know what came over me” like he said when he refused to dance with her at our prom, when she was sexually assaulted and he berated her for “cheating on him,” and when he pushed her into a wall when he was mad.
I told her to stop talking to him and every time she says “Okay I’m done with him” and proceeds to go behind my back and hook up with him or spend time with him. He’s manipulative, hurts her, and uses her.
After the first time they decided to take a break, he texted me and asked me if I wanted to hook up with him to make her feel bad, like I would turn on my best friend and do something horrible like that. I had a run in with him myself, in which I cussed him out and told him to stay away from her permanently. Now she’s mad at me because she’s saying I don’t know what it’s like to need someone and not be able to let them go. But I want her to know that she doesn’t need someone who will use her for sex while they’re not even in a relationship or put their hands on her or not support her when she was sexually assaulted. What should I say to her to make her get it?