hi i'm back
it's been a hot minute since i asked something, but i don't have anywhere else to go for this... i'll try to keep it short but i made it unnecessarily long so... beware.
here's what's going on. beginning of july i was on tinder and i swiped right on this guy. i was hesitant because i think he's really attractive but we've gone to school together in the past and for some reason that intimidated me, but he actually liked me back and he messaged me asking for my insta but i didn't respond because we were already following each other. then randomly a day or two later he likes one of my posts (not sure how he found my page, i didn't message him back) and then on the 4th of july he messages me on insta just kinda telling me who he is and asking if i wanna hang out sometime. i said sure, and we have just been getting to know each other since then. we've hung out in person 4 times already over the past week and they've all been pretty nice. the first time he brought me flowers which i actually wasn’t expecting, he was open to meeting my parents and it was really nice overall, but when i got home i wasn’t quite sure because i felt like things were a bit awkward. second time he asked if i wanted to go to barnes and noble with him to get a book so we went, it was fun, then we came back and just sat in his car for a while talking, and one time he opened up his phone and he was last on my instagram profile looking at some pictures i posted, which i thought was cute. he was even 30 minutes late for work that day because we were talking. third time we went to a lake and sat in his car and smoked, it was my first time and he knew that, he was very nice and patient with me even though i looked stupid as hell, and then we got food and sat in his car and talked again for a minute. today was the fourth time and we went to the lake and smoked again for a while and then he took me home. each time he gave me a hug before i left. he says good morning every day when he responds (oh boy, just keep reading) and actually listens to the music i reccommend to him. by this point i feel more comfortable, and i’m at the point where i kinda want things to start moving forward.
sounds nice, right? buuut here are the things that really confuse me about him. he takes sooo long to reply. sometimes (with the exception that hes at work) it'll take him 2 hours to reply, but he usually tells me that he's been asleep. i don't know if this is normal, i've seen a lot of people say that they could be in love with someone and not text back just because they're bad at texting. also, my last relationship was 2 years and we texted each other constantly. i don't NEED him to message me constantly, but sometimes it's so long that it's wierd to me. another time i was waiting for a reply from him and i saw that he had liked some girl's post on insta which normally i wouldnt freak out over (and its not her im worried about) but the post was made after i messaged him myself. and when he finally responded he told me that he just woke up. wierd, no? and we still only talk over instagram, i’d prefer imessage or something but he’s never asked. but every time we’ve hung out he’s never on his phone, he only really is when he wants to change a song. if anything, i text people when we’re hanging out more than he does. i’ve been wanting to just ask him myself but it’s hard seeing as he technically doesn’t really owe me anything yet, and i don’t want to seem clingy or obsessive when we’ve only been doing this for less than two weeks. i’ve been trying to drop hints but im not sure if he’s picking up on them or if hes ignoring them. sometimes he'll say something but i cant tell myself if it meant something or if he was just being nice (for example, i told him i liked his piercings and tattoos and they looked good on him, all he said was "i appreciate it<3" ; and when i said i want some myself he said "you should get one, it'd look good on you", like i cant even tell myself). i wanted to poke at some sticks though, so today i messaged him saying something along the lines of “hey, thanks for hanging out with me lately even though im awkward (in case that makes me seem off-putting), and if you wanna, lets hang out for longer next time
” and his response was like “its all good, and most definitely, i dont do anything on my days off anyways,” like… what does that even mean.
i do think that i like him and i’d love to continue building up a relationship with him but something about this wierd stuff is making me want to hold back. can anyone help me figure out whats really going on? it’s early days, so i want to figure out how i should continue moving on with this situation before i actually find myself in too deep. am i just overthinking or should i just run now? thank you for any advice <3 and again, sorry for making this so long, i just wanted to make everything as accurate as possible!