My nipples and clitoris aren’t sensitive at all

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My nipples and clitoris aren’t sensitive at all

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(14F)So this has been bothering me for a long time
I feel no sexual pleasure from touching anywhere on my breast (it's like touching my elbow)and little to no pleasure when rubbing my clit. I've tried using penetration, electric toothbrush even coconut oil to try and lube my Vagina and clit. I don't even get turned on anymore when I was 13; all I had to do watch a movie with a guy I found attractive. I would get turned on, or I also got heavily into erotic fanfic(for around 2years stopped for 2-3 months when I stopped feeling anything but coming into the new school year started reading it again because I was bored). I think that turned in to a porn addiction of sort and reading it used to get me horny, but now it does nothing for me I decided to stop reading it to see if it would make a difference, but it's too early to tell. I just feel lost because I could wake up and feel horny, and it seems like cause I couldn't act on those feelings, they just went away.

So my question is, what can I do to put sensation in my breast and build my libido back up? Is there some type of vitamin I can buy or exercise I can do to get me where I need to be I heard that if you boobs are bigger your nerves aren't always close enough but my older sister whos smaller them me but a similar size chest feels things that I don't feel.
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Re: My nipples and clitoris aren’t sensitive at all

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Hi Rose,

Welcome to Scarleteen,

So, unfortunately there aren't any vitamins that can 'put' erotic sensation into parts of our body. All bodies are different and it is relatively rare for a person to be turned on through contact with their breasts independent of being turned on by the wider situation or some other stimulus.

In terms of a lower libido, it may just be that your hormones have been fluctuating and whatever was happening in your body a year ago isn't happening at this particular moment... that doesn't mean there's anything wrong but I can see it might be annoying!

It also sounds like you've had some negative feelings around some of your turn-ons such as reading fanfic.

Could this be influencing things?
"In between two tall mountains there's a place they call lonesome.
Don't see why they call it lonesome.
I'm never lonesome when I go there." Connie Converse - Talkin' Like You
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Re: My nipples and clitoris aren’t sensitive at all

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At first, it was exciting, and I got turned on very quickly, but now it boring and does nothing for me. I hear girls my age talking about things like their so scandalous(which they are), but I can't help but think it's very dull. Im scared that when I get older, I won't enjoy anything, I do to my self or with anybody else, because I don't get turned on by normal things anymore. If I stop reading it altogether, will the feelings return?
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With fanfic, as with any sexual media, often part of what's exciting about it is it being a new thing. Over time, if we keep reading the same stories or watching the same things, the novelty can wear off and that can take the excitement way down. Not reading fanfic won't bring your desires or feelings back to a certain level, nor will it automatically change what sorts of things turn you on. But, if you have certain stories that you just love and you don't read them for awhile, sometimes when you come back they can feel new and exciting again.

Can you say a little more about those fears about not being turned on by "normal" things? What things do you think of as normal, and what interests or turn-ons of yours are you worried aren't normal?
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Re: My nipples and clitoris aren’t sensitive at all

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its more or less things like extreme BDSM and things that aren't human-like(no into this though)
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While "normal" isn't an easy term to define, when it comes to sexual preferences, being interested in reading about BDSM certainly isn't uncommon, and having that interest doesn't necessarily means you will need it in order to be turned on or interested in sex with a partner.

A lot of people enjoy reading or fantasizing about things they aren't interested in exploring personally; liking to read about BDSM doesn't mean you will only be interested in that in your sexual life with other people, or that you'll be interested in it at all. Taking the non-human example (which I am guessing is something like alien or monster partners; feel free to correct me if I'm wrong), that's a fantasy that can't be realized in someone's partnered sex life, but plenty of people have sexual fantasies about non-human partners of some kind and also have active and enjoyable sex lives.

If you think you are interested in exploring BDSM with a future partner, and you're feeling uncomfortable about that, we can talk about those feelings, but mostly I want to reassure you that the content of your fantasies or the stories you like to read now don't mean you can't enjoy other kinds of sex or intimacy in the future.
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