So, here's the thing: in order for us to experience love in something other than a broad, general way, we have to love ourselves, and in order to get to those places, intimacy of some kind generally has to be involved. We have top be willing to be vulnerable with someone else and vice-versa, and share the kinds of things in that piece in trust and with care. When we do, over time, and we do so, both mutually and in a mutually caring and healthy way, that's basically how love grows.
If we don't want to do any of that, then yeah, love relationships aren't going to be a thing we have.
If we want to do things like that, including because we want to experience love, but we don't feel able to -- either because we're too scared of getting hurt, don't feel resilient enough -- we can work on that over time to see if we can change any of that, and we often can. Same goes with learning how to be safe for others and pick safe people, build trust, all of that.
Is the issue something like that, or is it more like that you just have no interest in actually being in a mutually intimate relationship, what you're looking for is more just wanting to feel love from someone else without building or sustaining a shared relationship that love can mutually grow and be mutually shared in?
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