In relation to the above post, I did date this guy for 4 more months and I ended up falling for him. We are pretty serious about our relationship and even planned on getting married next year.
But there is one problem. Since the lockdown has been relaxed, he consulted an Andrologist and ran Semen Analysis and Penile Doppler and STI tests. The STIs came up negative, but.....
We got devastating results in Semen Analysis. He has Azoospermia(No sperm in semen). The doctor suspected obstruction but the Doppler test showed no obstruction which means his undescended testis surgery (which he did 10 years back) was unsuccessful. We are pretty devastated and he is still in shock. I am being supportive as much as I can.
Our relationship has come to a serious stage and this happening is brutal. I don't know how to handle this situation. I am being supportive but when I see the future of the relationship I am pretty scared about not having children. Sometimes I even think if I am shallow and selfish for thinking like this. But his condition has caused a lot of question marks for the future of our relationship.
I am having conflicting feelings about our relationship. He hasn't opened up much about how he is feeling. I am trying to comfort him as much as I can. He has apologised for leading me on because we were very eager of having children after we get married. I know it's not his fault but I am angry on him for not taking this test few years back(He is a doctor himself and should have been wiser than this).
It's a big shock for both of us, But when it comes to relationship I am having conflicting feelings. The doctor has told us that there is a huge possibility that he may not be able to produce sperms at all so no biological children. I have arranged for therapy for both of us to deal with this issue. I want him to be strong because it's not his fault.
When push comes to shove, I should either choose him and go for adoption because IVF is not an option (I don't want a sperm donor's baby) or break up with him for this reason (which seems pretty shallow) but having biological children of my own has always been my dream and I don't think I should give up on that.
My mind and heart is conflicted. I don't know what to do. I love him but this is a huge thing and is devastating. Please help me