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I actually do feel good about continuing the long distance relationship. But I did just get some terrible news from him. He just told me that his family's dog attacked them last night and they had to go to the hospital and get stitches.
Oh my goodness, that's a scary piece of information to get! Fingers crossed that everyone ends up being okay (or as okay as you can be in those circumstances).
That sounds doubly frustrating. It really is a bummer how the pandemic is delaying all sorts of important things right now.
I hope you're able to comfort your boyfriend from afar and that he's doing okay.
Mo wrote:That sounds doubly frustrating. It really is a bummer how the pandemic is delaying all sorts of important things right now.
I hope you're able to comfort your boyfriend from afar and that he's doing okay.
Yeah. I know I can comfort him from afar. Because yesterday he and I were talking and I brought up my traumatic experience. (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1YXa ... sp=sharing this is the document with it) And after that he said "Thanks [my real name], I know we can both go through this together."
I'm glad you're finding that you can comfort him from afar. Just to chime in -- the pandemic is making so many things so incredibly difficult, including feeling helpless when our loved ones are far away and we can't help. Sharing traumatic experiences can definitely strengthen relationship bonds and I'm glad you're able to relate to each other in this way.
Absolutely. And as Alice said, supporting each other through difficult experiences can be something that really strengthens a relationship: it's great that you're able to give each other that support even though you're not in the same place.
"Where there is power, there is resistance." -Michel Foucault
Thanks Karyn. He just got his stitches out on Monday and then my dog got into a fight with our neighbor's dog who happens to be part pit bull and I ran out there (without shoes) as soon as I heard both of my dogs barking. And now my foot is bruised. My boyfriend said
Why do you always get hurt? Lol I guess we are both accident prone
I mean he also supports me. When I was healing from my broken femur last year, he helped me get to my classes even if it made him late. I mean he and I weren't dating then. But still