Help, pregnancy anxiety

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Help, pregnancy anxiety

Unread post by Nox »

I know this may sound irrational but here it goes. So I (Male, 20) performed manual sex (fingering) to my girlfriend (Female, 20) last May 15, nothing other than that happened. I am aware that I had pre-cum but was sure that I did not came/ have cum. If I remember correctly my fingers were dry before I touched her. The next day she had her period
(May 16). I know that the chances of pregnancy given these situations are next to impossible if not impossible at all. But we have been anxious weeks after what happened (it was our first manual sex), and today (June 24) her period hasn't occurred again. Could it be due to the anxiety caused by the pregnancy scare and stress about school?, our body clock were wrecked for the past month (sleeping by 3 am and getting up by 11 am or 12 pm) Could it be that her ovulation is just delayed?
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Re: Help, pregnancy anxiety

Unread post by Sam W »

We will not answer ANY questions about pregnancy fear or anxiety in our direct services from users who are not pregnant or who are not or have not otherwise been directly involved with an actual pregnancy.

Please do not post this kind of question. If you are seeing this text, and your thread is locked, it is because you have posted this kind of question.

We CAN and WILL talk about things like:
• choosing and using a method or methods of contraception for any future sexual activity
• creating your own sexual limits and boundaries based on your needs and/or presenting them to any partners
• making sexual choices that suit your own needs, abilities and limitations, including your own readiness for certain possible risks
• help locating or using emergency contraception if and when you have had a pregnancy risk
• discussing options with a real, existing pregnancy, and help finding and accessing those options, such as abortion services and pre-natal care, or discussing feelings or concerns about a past pregnancy
• help with anxiety like locating mental health services, sound self-help or asking for support from friends or family

For help dealing with a scare (including what poses a risk and your next steps based on your unique situation), you may use our tool on site built for this purpose: The Pregnancy Panic Companion.
For help with anxiety, click here.
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