Carving out personal space at holiday gatherings

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Carving out personal space at holiday gatherings

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During holiday periods with large/lengthy family gatherings that may involve staying with family - many people have difficulty having time or space to themselves, which is particularly heightened when difficult family members or dynamics are involved.

With a major holiday period approaching, now is a good way to share the useful ways we’ve found to carve out some personal space and/or other ways of coping.

For me, it’s one of the classics: going to start the dinner dishes, it’s appreciated and becomes a socially sanctioned reason to step away from the dinner table. Ideal times can be upon the table being ready to cleared after the main course (help clear the table and then on to washing) as well as after desert. Often a family member who you get along with, if available, can be roped in to help (particularly if they could use a break from others/big group dynamic).

What are some things you all have found worked?