My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby solareclipse94 » Tue May 19, 2020 10:09 am

I actually do feel good about continuing the long distance relationship. But I did just get some terrible news from him. He just told me that his family's dog attacked them last night and they had to go to the hospital and get stitches.

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby Sam W » Tue May 19, 2020 10:30 am

Oh my goodness, that's a scary piece of information to get! Fingers crossed that everyone ends up being okay (or as okay as you can be in those circumstances).

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby solareclipse94 » Tue May 19, 2020 10:32 am

Yep. I just wish I could be there with him to comfort him. But quarantine is going longer. Which also prolongs me getting my braces off.

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby Mo » Tue May 19, 2020 3:18 pm

That sounds doubly frustrating. :( It really is a bummer how the pandemic is delaying all sorts of important things right now.
I hope you're able to comfort your boyfriend from afar and that he's doing okay.

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby solareclipse94 » Wed May 20, 2020 6:14 am

Mo wrote:That sounds doubly frustrating. :( It really is a bummer how the pandemic is delaying all sorts of important things right now.
I hope you're able to comfort your boyfriend from afar and that he's doing okay.

Yeah. I know I can comfort him from afar. Because yesterday he and I were talking and I brought up my traumatic experience. (https://docs.google.com/document/d/1YXa_eMmRBh9dXjjJX2Mdx6OptoLUppK3s2OiziXZm8E/edit?usp=sharing this is the document with it) And after that he said "Thanks [my real name], I know we can both go through this together."

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby Alice M. » Wed May 20, 2020 12:19 pm

I'm glad you're finding that you can comfort him from afar. Just to chime in -- the pandemic is making so many things so incredibly difficult, including feeling helpless when our loved ones are far away and we can't help. Sharing traumatic experiences can definitely strengthen relationship bonds and I'm glad you're able to relate to each other in this way.

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby solareclipse94 » Wed May 20, 2020 12:27 pm

Thanks, Alice. He really needs support right now just like I needed support when I was healing from my broken leg

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby Karyn » Wed May 27, 2020 6:25 pm

Absolutely. And as Alice said, supporting each other through difficult experiences can be something that really strengthens a relationship: it's great that you're able to give each other that support even though you're not in the same place.
"Where there is power, there is resistance." -Michel Foucault

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby solareclipse94 » Thu May 28, 2020 6:43 am

Thanks Karyn. He just got his stitches out on Monday and then my dog got into a fight with our neighbor's dog who happens to be part pit bull and I ran out there (without shoes) as soon as I heard both of my dogs barking. And now my foot is bruised. My boyfriend said
Why do you always get hurt? Lol I guess we are both accident prone

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby Amanda F. » Thu May 28, 2020 12:40 pm

oh no, more injuries! I hope your foot is okay and that your dogs are okay too. Glad your boyfriend got his stitches out!

solareclipse94, it sounds like you've been caring for your partner lately. You deserve support, too. How can we best support YOU going forward?

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby solareclipse94 » Fri May 29, 2020 6:54 am

I mean he also supports me. When I was healing from my broken femur last year, he helped me get to my classes even if it made him late. I mean he and I weren't dating then. But still

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Re: My Boyfriend is staying at my old school

Unread postby Sam W » Fri May 29, 2020 7:29 am

I'm glad he's supporting you right back!

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