Am I doomed because of so called "daddy issues"

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Am I doomed because of so called "daddy issues"

Unread postby pink.$kies » Mon May 04, 2020 12:34 pm

Grew up with an abusive father, so the relationship between us is shattered.
Does this mean that I'll go for guys who treat me like shit?
Just the thought of that SCARES me.

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Re: Am I doomed because of so called "daddy issues"

Unread postby Mo » Mon May 04, 2020 4:21 pm

Hi there, pink.$kies.
I don't think you're doomed to have unhealthy relationships, or to wind up with partners who treat you poorly. One thing that will help, I think, is to try and make sure that you're only entering into relationships that feel healthy and supportive. We have a lot of articles that talk about identifying abusive or unhealthy relationships and how to create and maintain healthy ones; I think taking a look at these will be a good place to start, when you're thinking about how you want to approach relationships in the future:
Blinders Off: Getting a Good Look at Abuse and Assault
Hello, Sailor! How to Build, Board and Navigate a Healthy Relationship
Potholes & Dead Ends: Relationship Roadblocks to Look Out For

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