My boyfriend tends to say I love you to other girls and that they're cute to make them feel loved and better about themselves. He is doing this without any romantic attraction, but I can not take this jealousy in my chest off. I have communicated this with him but he said that this was only a platonic way of showing his love to his friendships. I don't think that I have mentioned that I was jealous of this to him yet, but I don't know how to communicate this problem because I will just prevent him from showing love and support to his friendships. Should I still communicate with him about this? Or should I fix my self-esteem issues that may have made this jealousy first?
My self-esteem issues started in freshman year when I saw more of my friends dating other people. I wonder if I was too ugly or my personality sucked to the point that no one loved me romantically. This had such a huge impact on my self-esteem that I had extreme anxiety about my looks and my grades were even getting worse than usual. This lasted to junior year when finally a guy asked me out who is my boyfriend today. However, I think that the self-esteem issues are still there because my friend recently got a boyfriend and I felt sad all of a sudden
I was confused at these feelings because I have a boyfriend. I don't know how to fix these self-esteem issues and feelings I have been having, so can you also give tips on how to make my self-esteem issues better?
By the way, my boyfriend and I are in a long-distance relationship right now. He lived two hours from me and as of now, we can't drive to each other places to meet up
He is extremely busy right now because he has club activities every weekend, and my parents don't allow me to drive a car yet. The only way we can love each other right now is through texts and Facetime. Maybe that's another factor why I'm jealous? I also feel like we don't have an end goal in this relationship. He is also going to a college soon since he is a senior, so I have no idea if he will ever visit me. I asked when are we ever going to meet each other again, and he said I don't know. I didn't reply to him when he said that. By the way, we have been dating for a month now, and it seems like we already have many issues with each other
Please give me as many tips as possible because this is the first relationship I have and I have no idea how to approach these situations. I'll be grateful if you take your time to read this and giving me advice on myself and my relationship. Thank you!