Hi! My boyfriend has fingered me a handful of times now, and while I really enjoy the actual penetration aspect of it, every time he rubs my clitoris I feel like it’s too sensitive. I haven’t orgasmed and every time he does rub my clitoris I ask him to alternate between doing that and penetrating me manually. The other day I tried having him rub my clitoris very, very gently, and while that did feel better, I eventually had to have him stop because it felt too overwhelming. In a way, it’s felt so good that it’s been painful? I can’t handle him touching my clitoris for too long at one time. I think that I’ve been close to orgasming, but I’m really not sure if I have yet. I’ve had my legs spasm and I’ve felt a tingling in my vagina while he’s touched me, but I haven’t felt a true “release.”
I have never masturbated on my own before and he is the first person to finger me. I’ve never particularly had an interest in masturbating, but it makes me feel bad because I feel like I can’t really help my boyfriend out. He will readily and happily take any suggestion or request I have when it comes to this activity and all he wants is for me to enjoy it. I do feel pleasure from being fingered, but I also really want to orgasm and know what makes me orgasm.