Hey there, Paige. In the future, you'll want to start a new thread for a new topic of your own, but let's get started, and then I can move our posts to a different topic afterward.
Vaginas don't really work the way it sounds like you're thinking where they are permanently "tighter" or "looser." Rather, for the most part, this is about how things are at the time this is going on, and about how relaxed the person feels with the vagina, how turned on they are (usually from other activities that have gone on first that they enjoy before anything like intercourse), using lube, having a patient, responsive partner who isn't hasty or self-focused, privacy and a bunch of issues.
Before you came to the boards, were you able to read any of the content we have on the website about this first? If not, how about I share some of those links with you to give you some basic information and we can take this from there?
I do want to check in with you about the relationship you're in where this is or might be going on. In your state, it's not likely lawful for anyone to actually be engaging in intercourse or other kinds of sex with you in the first place, and since 13 is certainly on the younger side for people to be having intercourse -- no judgments, it's just young as far as things go -- I also wanted to be sure you weren't being pressured by anyone. Can we check in on this stuff?
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