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delete old posts?

Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2022 3:32 am
by Lyle Lanley
i've already changed my handle for anonimity, but could you please delete my posts "a load of relationship stuff" and "i regret this so bad", please?
if this is too selfish of a request and you can't do it, i understand. but i've gone over that now, so much changed for the better, especially with my partners, and i don't like looking back at that time where i was also a worse person.
just asking cos i saw i can't delete or edit them myself.
again if you can't do that it's ok

Re: delete old posts?

Posted: Tue Aug 16, 2022 4:08 pm
by Mo
As a general rule, we don't delete posts on our message boards; that's part of the site guidelines you agreed to when signing up for an account. Do you feel that having these posts still up on the boards would impact your personal safety in any way?

Re: delete old posts?

Posted: Wed Aug 17, 2022 12:26 am
by Lyle Lanley
define personal safety. it's mostly mental health reasons and also fear that if the ppl involved saw the posts, they'd turn against me. i'm just very anxious but that's my problem.
also they came from a skewed perception of the reality at the time: my relationship problems could've been solved by communication, which was poor back then, and what happened in the second topic was that he initiated and i felt psychologically "freezed" so i thought i had consented even if i didn't like it, and felt guilty for it so i told my partner. now the tension has gone.

Re: delete old posts?

Posted: Fri Aug 19, 2022 8:19 am
by Carly
Hey Lyle Lanley -- we define personal safety in this case as someone causing or threatening bodily harm to you or you harming yourself. Feeling anxious about the possibility of someone seeing the posts or moving past the feelings you posted about does not fall into these perimeters right now. However, I don't want to minimize the anxiety you're feeling - I totally understand the stress that comes from looking back at ourselves when we felt differently or acted in a way that we better understand now. If you feel that you'd like to share more about those situations or give updates in the thread to explain how you're feeling about it all now, you're welcome to submit replies to those old threads. I think sharing what you learned about communication could be very helpful! Keep in mind though this would take some anonymity out of your username change.

While we're unable to delete these posts, it might feel relaxing if you think of your new username as a clean slate. :)