ddl/lg

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ddl/lg

Unread post by bikinksterboy »

what do you guys gals and assorted non-binary people think of it? I know it's a very controversial kink that has an ugly history of pedophilia and abuse, and I've seen opinions both for and against it
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Hi Bikinksterboy,

You might be interested in this piece. It's by Ella Dawson and she talks about her relationship to this dynamic: https://femsplain.com/good-girl-256c7da71350#.r6z2leioi
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Its' definitely got its' problematic elements. I dunno, I'm somewhere in the middle where I wish detractors wouldn't call an activity with consenting adults 'pedophilia apology' since there's no actual minors involved (I mean, I should hope not) at the same time it feels kind of...I don't know if there's a word that fits better than appropriative, for people that aren't incest survivors to be using? Like survivors have talked about it being a kind of catharsis, for everyone else it just seems like "here is my edgy play-pretend incest". Like it seems to go beyond the one roleplay session to the point of actually naming their dynamic after it and not sure what I'm getting at here, lobbing around some of the saccharine terms for instance seems like it could get offensive pretty fast?

Not saying that to throw shade at people partaking in it, I'm pretty much at the point where "yeah the detractors kind of put me off with being generally nasty about it and saying one side is being borderline-pedophillic".
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I have looked into this topic a lot love the idea of doing a scene with it in the future. It is a D's relationship both partners are consenting and there is always a safe word if some one the Dom or sub (daddy or little) feel uncomfortable or unsafe.
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apologies all, from current me, for my highly uninformed hot take way back when. I disavow the original post as it was full of shit and doesn't represent what I believe.
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Hi bikinksterboy,

All good! This was an educational moment, don't worry about it!
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