Sorry if the subject name feels a little clickbait-y, but this is coming from a place of confusion above all else
I'm hoping this doesn't across as bringing needless drama to a fairly calm message board
So, as of a few months ago/a year-ish
I started seeing the term 'bi lesbian' popping up around online spaces
The key part here is that I never saw anyone who personally used it/used it as a headcanon for a character (this is a common activity in the spaces I spend time in)
it was just a kind of buzz that bi-lesbians were being talked about and there was 'drama'
The main issue I have is that I have no idea what the term means?
I think labels are supposed to serve the user, so I don't get how it became such a big controversy?
Normally I'm not too interested in such things (especially as a great deal of it happens on twitter, for which I neither have an account nor want to as the whole place is just an annoying argument generator)
but more recently its drifted over into parts of my internet space
Like, around the start of June there was a lot of people sharing the patreon for the lady who designed the most popular lesbian flag at the moment (the flag that goes two orange stripes, white, two pink stripes) and she was being shared as the 'inclusive flag' since she has no issue with trans lesbians, ace people ect
and one line that stuck with me was to the affect of "she doesn't agree with bi lesbians but that's good" with no further elaboration
And this week, my art was part of a little trans themed art week on tumblr (so basically I just used a specific tag and then it was reblogged as part of a blog that existed as a showcase)
the only rules for this art week was stuff like it has to be trans-centric, nothing pornographic/violent, nothing discriminatory... and no supporters of M-spec gay/lesbians????
(M-spec as in multispec, so like bi/pan/attracted to more than one gender ect)
Without more context it just makes me think of that one scene from one of the Austin Powers sequels where Austin's dad is like "I only hate 2 things: Intolerance and the Dutch"
And that's what keeps getting me:
A lot of the anti-bi lesbian crowd are otherwise inclusive people?
So is bi lesbian some kind of dog whistle for something bad? or is it just an unpopular label?
In which case does anyone know how it got to be so controversial???
Is anyone here m-spec gay/lesbian? What does that label mean to you? I hope this didn't come across as accusatory or upsetting...