Thank you, this gave me many things to think about! Can I talk about each thing you said here?
If the adults in your life aren't open to debate and discussion, and if there's no chance of your being physically/emotionally/financially at risk if you don't listen to them, then I'd suggest just riding out their disapproval...
My father is open to discussion about this, but I don't think I can change his mind. He has also brought up that wearing short clothes even if that hurts his feelings is wrong on my part. Does "compromise" by me, making him feel better by wearing what he wants me to really apply here? Because I feel like it doesn't in an important thing (to me) like this. IS
this needless "teenage rebellion"???
It may wear them down slowly, and if it doesn't--well, 18 is just around the corner.
I think this has already happened, the wearing down, although that doesn't make me feel very good, because I still feel like I have made my father "compromise". Yes, 18 is not too far!!!
If he says that he's just trying to protect you from unwanted sexual attention, you could tell him that if such unwanted attention does come your way, you've got the means to protect yourself, and that sexual violence could (and often does) happen to anyone, regardless of what they've got on.
I agree! And he will say that, haha. I don't know what he will say after I say this, though.
Last thing, I feel like I still need some assurance that my opinion is fine. If I go out and a "male" stares at me or actually physically does something bad (ugh, this feels weird to think about but my parents have made me think about this so many times) and I'm wearing shorts, would the chances of that become less by wearing jeans?? I'm not creating "drama" or doing something unnecessary by asking and thinking about this, right?
Thank you so much for giving me a way to start the conversation again. I don't really feel like doing that because it will be stressful, is that okay for me?