I feel uncomfortable around my grandpa

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I feel uncomfortable around my grandpa

Unread postby IAmScared » Sat Mar 14, 2020 12:51 am

Hi <3

Let me get one thing straight first: I love my grandpa,the one I live with.

But every time I'm around him,I remember how he touched my breasts without asking for my consent when I was 19. I feel I can't talk to anyone about this.I KNOW he won't abuse me again because I don't have breasts anymore (I had top surgery) and I look like a boy and have facial hair and he isn't into guys.But I feel uncomfortable.What do I do?

I just feel my life is bad.I have been sexually assaulted by 3 different people in my life,including him...
Also,I'm into older guys,and mum says that since I'm still a child in my mind,that older people will use or abuse me,like it happened before.How does one protect himself from being abused?

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Re: I feel uncomfortable around my grandpa

Unread postby Siân » Sat Mar 14, 2020 7:41 am

Hi IAmScared,

We've shared everything we can with you on the topic of abuse - and we've set limits around discussing this more. The best thing right now would be to look for support from someone who can work through this with you - like a therapist.

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