A little background: I've been dating my boyfriend for about 2.5 years now, and he just told me a couple weeks ago that he was sexually assaulted at a summer camp when he was about 8 or 9. This was over a video call, and I could tell it was really hard for him to tell me: later he said that he was a little worried that I would be mad he hadn’t told me earlier (which is apparently a common thing for survivors), but I don’t care about that at all.
We talked the next day about it and he said that he had “gotten over it” and that he was fine, and he just started seeing a therapist, so I’m hoping he’ll tell them, but I’m still worried. Another issue is that the camp counselor that assaulted him may still be working with children, and my boyfriend could tell the camp director but he’s afraid that the director would lose his job (I honestly think the director should), and of course it’s a really personal thing to tell someone about that. My boyfriend is a very independent and strong person and he said that he didn’t want me to feel sorry for him, but it’s still really stressing me out. Any advice as to what I can do?