Sunny_Side_Up wrote:So this might be a bit long but I honestly need some help. I’m 13 turning 14 in a month. I grew up Roman Catholic meaning I can’t be anything but a straight young lady. I’ve heard thinks such as you’ll go to hell if you like the same sex and many other sayings that are quite similar. Now one of my number one fears are dying and going to hell. But I’ve begun to realize as I scroll through Instagram or look at a magazine I’ll come across an image of a women and say to myself, “0h, she’s really hot/cute/sexy.” And then I’m like wait!?!?!? Did I just think that???? About a women???? And it’s basically the same as if I’m looking at a guy. So I’m getting some bisexual/pansexual vibes. And I’m really scared because I was always taught man was made for women, women was made for man. I don’t want to go to hell but I think I’m at least bisexual. Or is it normal to be straight and still find girls sexually appealing? I have no idea. I’m scared and believe in Heaven. I’ve heard that your not going to be able to got to Heaven as long as your not straight so I’m so, so scared. Please help me. I’m miserable.
Hey! Honestly, don't beat yourself up for your feelings. It's completely natural. I will say this though; if your family is really strict (and you're scared they might kick you out/hurt you if they found out about your feelings), it's best to prioritise your safety. I wish my parents were accepting of my sexuality (they're strict Muslims) but I know it probably won't happen, and I'll personally be waiting until I move out to open up to them, since I wouldn't be in danger then.
On the question of religion and what God thinks, just consider this. God created you. You can't control these natural feelings. You are his creation, and as his creation, you're attracted to both women and men. God won't hate you for that, if you're religious, then you believe that he made you. If you baked a cake, would you get mad at it for being a cake? No. You are who you are. God knows that. He won't send you to hell for it, I promise.