any asexuals that have advice? :)

[Jacob]

^ This is off-topic, but I just want to say it's good to see you here and if you'd like to talk on chat or by email, I know I and other folks on the staff would be really happy to!

[sky]

Hey horriblegoose. I don’t know what to call you just let me know if that’s not okay. I’m so happy you’re back. I was worried about you. I hope you’re doing okay. I appreciate you so much and I really want you to be okay and happy and safe.

Thank you for all that. I don’t really know how to say this because I just figured it out about a week ago and I just told someone for the first time yesterday. I realize I am not ace. I am very very very lesbian and was afraid to admit it. I feel like a liar or something, I really did think that I was ace and I feel so so bad that I’m not.

I made so many friends in the community and everyone was so kind to me (Especially you) and I feel rude for finding this label and using it. I know sexuality is fluid and I feel weird about it still I don’t know why. I felt safe in it and I feel like it allowed me to understand myself better. I hope this doesn’t like hurt you in anyway. I promise I didn’t mean any harm but mis labeling myself. I thought it was me and it just, isn’t. I’m still a little nervous and worried to have sex but that’s normal and that’s okay. I’m okay being gay, I know that now. It took since I was like 9 to understand this. But I finally feel ~okay~ about it. I actually think I might be bi but I have no idea. There’s no rush and I’m simply just, exploring.

Again, I truly truly hope you’re okay. You are never alone.

[Heather]

Hey sky: just poking my nose in to say that no one is a liar for thinking they are one orientation and discovering they are another. We can only ever know what we know at the time! People also aren't liars who have orientation shifts, who change how they talk about their orientation with others, including with their language, or who even choose a given identity because it feels safer than another. You, like everyone else, are allowed to have these kinds of processes and experiences.